Comfort in Suffering

I participated in a conversation at the Conservative Treehouse’s prayer request page, where a hurting mother was seeking prayer for a complex situation with her son.  See the link here for that conversation:

Prayer Requests – 10

Here is some of what I shared with her…so I hope this might bless you too–In Christ…

Dear PJ,

My heart truly goes out to you & I relate to most of what you’ve shared in so many ways. I do have a son on the Autism Spectrum & he (& his twin) were preemies & I was an older mother, in my 30’s, when they were born…

We also have ADHD in our family & 4/6 of us are “officially” diagnosed, though the unofficial 2 have many of the traits…I once read a book that postulated that ADHD/ADD & Autism Spectrum were on a continuum, the “same” condition but a matter of degree…

I have faced Many Challenges with my son, Josiah, who is “atypically autistic” (his original diagnosis, back around 2000, was PDD-NOS). We had Many Battles with special education on his behalf & were only partially successful.

When he was an infant we were told he would never walk nor talk & that he would never read nor write . The first time I took him in for psychological testing his purported “IQ” seemed so low that they could hardly give it a number, like in the 20’s– some years later he tested in the “low normal” range, but was believed to be higher by many who worked with him. For years every time I took him to a specialist I felt like I’d been kicked in the face &/or punched in the gut because of the magnitude of what we were facing, the overwhelming isolation of our circumstances (& my introspective personality), & even the despair…

I was incredibly overwhelmed so many times & still struggle significantly with likely depression, anxiety, near agoraphobia, & church “avoidance”…there is a lot of baggage that is still being wrestled with (or avoided!) in so many arenas…

OK, so In Spite of All of That God has been incredibly faithful to us. Josiah has come so far & significantly passed all expectations early providers ever imagined for him. He has an amazing tender heart for the Lord & is often more spiritually insightful than the rest of our family. His faith is incredibly pure & he was blessed to “see” God in a vision during his Liver Transplant surgery. He has prayed for me & I have been instantaneously “healed”.

He still struggles in many arenas. He will likely never drive. It is unlikely that he will ever be fully self-supporting, though there are systems in place that can facilitate whatever degree of “independence” we ultimately pursue. He desires a wife (& talks about his theoretical marriage more than his 3 siblings combined) but only the Lord knows if that desire will ever be fulfilled in this life…there is so much more that I could say.

Josiah graduated from High School with his class in 2015 in spite of much missed school post-transplant leading in to his Junior Year. He did get a Diploma, & Not a Certificate of Completion, but since he has a severe learning disability in math & hasn’t completed 3rd grade level math I have a hard time believing that his diploma carries the same weight as his twin brother’s.

Anyway I share all of that to offer hope, from our testimony’s side. God will never leave nor forsake you & He is not off-put by our doubts, fears, & challenges. I am often reminded of that passage where Jesus spoke with someone struggling with their faith/doubt who cried out “Lord I believe…Help, Thou, my unbelief!” He truly gets it–All of it, & that is reflected in so many passages of scripture, especially in the Psalms.

I’ll write a second reply with some tangibles that May provide some help, I hope.

I will try to keep you & your son in my (intermittent) prayers–I am not as consistent of a faithful prayer warrior as are so many who read & reply here. Josiah wanted me to tell you that he will keep you both in his prayers too (since he’s “King Josiah of Israel”–his autism speaking out there!)

May you find some encouragement in these beautiful scripture images:

not scripture but a biblical-based sentiment:

In Christ’s Love & Compassion

Hi again PJ,

This is an attempt at a more “practical” reply, so take each item with a grain of salt & I apologize in advance if this is too much or too overwhelming…

It’s really hard to know where to start after bathing your situation in prayer.

Having a trusted friend or confidant can help to share the load (this is an arena sorely lacking in my case so I just share it as “common sense” not from my experience).

Getting accurate info, including diagnoses, is crucial. How can anyone tackle a “problem” if they don’t even know what it is?

That immediately gets into dicey arenas because dealing with the “wrong” people can really increase the burden. My son has a long-time provider, Dr. Susan Youngs, who is a PMR Pediatrician (Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation) by training but runs a comprehensive special needs clinic in Metro Detroit. Their website is here:

I cannot speak highly enough of Dr. Youngs. She provides comprehensive, family centered care that deals (more than anyone else we’ve worked with over the years) with multiple facets of the child’s needs: medical, educational, therapeutic, family support, etc. If you are not able to see her, contacting her office for a referral to someone in your area may be a good start–you can use my name, Valerie Curren, for she’s worked with our family for more than 2 decades now. She is a strong Christian woman & her practice is uniquely suited to the complex issues faced by special needs families. Her practice is one of just 3 in the state of Michigan that is a state-level autism care center too.

My son was diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum by Richard Solomon, MD who was a behavioral pediatrician working at the University of Michigan hospital at that time. I believe he is now on the East Coast somewhere so I’ll see if I can find a link for him. I ran into his sister at U of M (an Ann Arbor librarian reading to children at the hospital) & she said Dr. Solomon had also written a book related to unusual languages of the autistic, in particular “movie quoting” (which is a language spoken fluently in our house–without any of us having read the book). He could be an asset in multiple ways. Here is a site affiliated with him, autism, & w/U of M:

A behavioral pediatrician, an autism specialist, a communications center, community mental health, special education, an autism advocacy organization, and a neuropsychologist for appropriate testing are all important tools for your journey.

I significantly educated myself on the special education front at…here are a couple of links there that might help:

Special Ed became a huge rabbit’s hole in our case & we did much battle for minimal services. Depending on where you live they could become great advocates for you & your son or anvil-weighted adversaries. Getting advocacy assistance (like from an autism association, the ARC, or “Protection & Advocacy”) may help (hopefully) a lot here. There are Many Links at Wrightslaw that you can follow depending how deep you want to go.

If you start with special education & your son has never been tested you can request testing to determine if he has a “disability”. After the school system has done their testing you can request an “independent educational evaluation”–at the school’s expense. I highly encourage you to go this route & to avail yourself of a competent Neuropsychologist. Josiah was tested numerous times by Dr. Seth Warschausky, also out of U of M. Here is a link to a site with his info:

I cannot speak highly enough of Dr. Warschausky–he does an excellent job. His assessments were significantly more comprehensive than those done by the school system & he was better able to tease out more of the idiosyncrasies of my son’s challenges than were school-based testers. His testing compensated for many of my son’s sensory & attentional issues so that the test results were more reflective of the underlying skill set being examined than those “disabling” conditions that made testing him at all so challenging.

Depending on your son’s age there is the Early On Program, or Early Intervention. Those topics are addressed at length at

Some people have found help in support groups. I knew some mom’s who both had Down’s Syndrome kids & they took advocacy training together & encouraged each other as they each advocated for their kids. Having someone come alongside might really make a difference–again something with which I lack direct experience.

Well, that’s a taste of some of the practical stuff to try and tackle. It can be a big twinkie but even those can be eaten one bite at a time…

I’ve written about many aspects of our journey with Josiah on several blogs so if any of our experiences might help you please consider stopping by…

I started “journaling” about Josiah’s situation when he was near simultaneously diagnosed with a brain tumor & liver masses/tumors at a site called That site ended its service last year so I archived that journey here (searching for autism & adhd, I haven’t done categorization yet there):

I still blog about Josiah’s needs more directly here:

My main blog deals with many topics but there is A Lot of material connected to Josiah (including Autism &/or ADHD), advocacy, overcoming/facing challenges, medical &/or special education battles, special needs parenting, etc.

I also have links to my son Josiah’s blogs in the right-hand sidebar at SpecialConnections.

I have many times found timely & encouraging articles here & at various author’s sites:

So, as usual, that is probably too much information, so I’m sorry for overloading you. If you have any questions that I might be able to specifically address please reply with them.

May the Lord continue to give you the grace, peace, strength, comfort, rest, hope, & joy you need to walk this complex path with & for your son…God Bless YOU

On 4-18-19 I read this encouraging comment at The Conservative Treehouse that also fits this post:

  1. Deplorable_Infidel says:

    The God of All Comfort

    (An excerpt from Revelation Volume 3 by Paul M. Sadler)

    “Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God” (2 Cor. 1:3,4).

    Whatever trials and sorrows you may encounter in life, God wants you to know that He is the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. But exactly how does the Lord comfort us in our time of need? He does so in unique ways in this administration of Grace.

    It is comforting to know that, because we have a personal relationship with Christ, we can speak with our heavenly Father about all the things that are on our hearts. Prayer is communication with God. It’s the channel through which the finite has access to the infinite. Having been accepted in God’s beloved Son, we have access to talk with God at any time. Moreover, when we meditate on the Scriptures, God often comforts us through His written Word.

    Oftentimes, the Lord consoles us by bringing someone into our lives to encourage us. Many times it is a believer who has experienced the same adversity that we are facing. The world can be unmerciful in its attacks when we faithfully stand for the truth. This accounts for some of the sufferings we endure for the cause of Christ.

    Then there are those occasions when we are comforted by the arrival of good news. Perhaps it takes the form of diagnostic tests that come back negative, or an answer to prayer.

    It is also comforting to know that the Lord’s people are keeping us before the throne of Grace in our hour of need. It’s reassuring to realize that we do not need to bear our burdens alone.

    When finally we are delivered from our affliction, whatever form it may take, we are given a very special ministry by God. We are now in the position to comfort those who are hurting. The Lord doesn’t comfort us merely to be comfortable, but that we might also comfort others. Having passed through affliction ourselves, we are able to relate better to what someone else is facing.

    I remember making a hospital visit when one of the brethren from our local assembly stopped by. During the course of the conversation, he shared how, years earlier, he had had the same surgery that the one we were visiting was going to have. Almost immediately he had the patient’s undivided attention. Nothing I would’ve said could have ministered more effectively than the testimony of that dear brother in Christ.

    Consider for a moment the greatness of God. He is the Creator and Sustainer of all things in heaven and earth. When we peer into the night sky, we see His handiwork; the heavens are immense and reflect His glory (Psa. 19:1). The galaxies of stars that dot the heavens, He created and gave each of them a name. Such power and knowledge, as David said, is beyond our comprehension (Psa. 139:1-6; 147:5). But this same God, who is above all, has taken a personal interest in you and me (Psa. 8:4). That’s grace!

    Like the weaver who weaves a beautiful tapestry, God is methodically creating for the Church today an image of His divine purpose. Because we are currently on the wrong side of eternity, things can be difficult to understand. But soon all things will be made clear when we are caught up into the glory of His presence and see the finished tapestry of His grace

    By Pastor Paul M. Sadler

    2 Corinthians 1:3 Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;
    4 Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.

    Psalm 19:1 <> The heavens declare the glory of God; and the firmament sheweth his handywork.

    Psalm 139:1 <> O LORD, thou hast searched me, and known me.
    2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
    3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
    4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.
    5 Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me.
    6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto it.

    Psalm 147:5 Great is our Lord, and of great power: his understanding is infinite.

    Psalm 8:4 What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?


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